Personal growth is aided by the ability to remove the stumbling blocks that stand in the way of success and fulfillment. Sometimes the biggest ones are in our own minds and they come in the form of limiting beliefs that we accept as truth. What are these limiting beliefs and how do we overcome them? On this episode, Matt and Greg discuss the subject with business coach David Taylor-Klaus who also provides some key takeaways from,The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.
We all reach a level where each new level of professional success can come at the expense of personal success. – David Taylor-Klaus
Matt and Greg kicked off the chat and introduced listeners to David Taylor-Klaus, a business coach who helps reintroduce successful entrepreneurs and executives to their families.He believes in ensuring that professional success does not come at the expense of personal fulfillment. He also provides opportunities to recenter leaders and the teams that they lead because the behaviors of leaders often trail behind to the people they lead.
In his own life, David has benefitted from what he teaches his clients. He says his breaking point was when his stomach would sink when he’d turn the door knob to get into work. David adds that there’s a problem when “you hear your spouse say they hate their job more than you do.”
Takeaways + Tactics
- If you judge yourself for the failures, you won’t be able to learn from them.
- There’s no objective best or objective truth, it’s situational at best.
- If you measure your life with money it’s really hard to evaluate where you’re really successful.
The chat turns to the book, The Four Agreements which David came across during his training to become a coach. The book is about limiting beliefs and an important point is that being successful doesn’t have to come at the expense of other things. The 4 agreements are internal or cultural assumptions we take as truth and they shape our lives.
David says the book was a wake up call and he believes that people should aim for life-work integration and not work-life balance because he had reached a point where he hardly saw his children and that was a problem. He asked himself “what part of the problem am I?”
Matt points out that we shouldn’t internalize blame, we should try to compartmentalize it. “Successful people have the ability to take on the responsibility of something without it knocking down their self-esteem.” David adds that it’s all about having compassion and being objective. “If you judge yourself for the failures you won’t be able to learn from them. It’s important to reframe failures. Screwing up doesn’t make you a screw up and failing doesn’t make you a failure – make every mistake a new one.”
The co-hosts and David take on Don Miguel Ruiz’s second agreement learning not to take things personally, because it is the maximum expression of selfishness. By making everything about yourself, you’re making yourself the hero of everyone’s story. When we deal with what happens to us, we shouldn’t turn to anger first because we then miss the opportunity to really deal with the issues. Additionally making everything about you is the epitome of self-abuse. We each form the maps of our minds, and that means there’s no objective truth – just perception. David added “there’s no objective best or truth, it is situational at best. ”
How we look at success creates pathways for our best lives. When we only see money as the one currency that drives our lives we miss relationships, value and experiences. “If you measure your life with money it’s really hard to evaluate where you’re really successful.” It is necessary to decide on the life you want to live and built your life or business around that. David said “we’re not on this planet to make money we’re here to make an impact.”
David is a business coach whose clients are entrepreneurs & executives achieving success professionally but seeing that growth cause problems personally. His specialties include life coaching, executive coaching, entrepreneur coaching, leadership coaching and team coaching. To get in touch with David or find out more about his work visit DTKCoaching.com
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